遗憾

虽然我很开心在今年我和我的另一半终于踏出了迈向未来的第一步,但2013 年对于我来说并不是一个很令人开心的年份。在这一年里有三个我认识的人相续的离开了这个世界。或许是人开始长大了就必须经历这一类型的事情,但这个数目已经超出了人可以接受的界限吧。

其中两个是我在砂拉越第一次遇到的人,她们人很好、健谈,但就因为一些事情而导致她们走向这条不归路。当时的我很错愕,无法想象那么开朗的人就这么的离开了我们。她们甚至无法参加我们的婚礼。当我想:“应该不会再有更坏的了吧” 的时候,在距离二零一四年倒数第四天,我收到了一个更令我吃惊的消息。我好朋友的女朋友竟然因病逝世了。她才二十七岁而已!我相信她自己也没想到竟然她的人生要在那天结束了。。。

今天去参加了她的丧礼,在出殡的时候她的家人、男朋友、读书时认识的朋友全都哭成泪人。虽然我认识她的时间不长,但是我一直都以为我们这几个朋友都可以在几年后各自带自己的伴,一起去游玩、旅行。我认识了她男朋友这么多年,这次是我第一次看到他那么伤心的流眼泪。我实在无法想像之前还来我父母档口和我父母说话的那一对恩爱的情侣,现在其中一个竟然只能安静的躺在棺木里,再也不会讲话。在她弟弟按下那一个按钮将他姐姐送去焚化炉时,我朋友还有她家人的哀嚎声让身边的人都能感受到他们的不舍、难过。我朋友说他们打算要明年要去注册,但想不到这个计划永远都不能实现了。。。

至今当我想到之前大伙儿一起出去游玩、烧烤、喝酒、谈天的画面,我还是会忍不住的落泪。我朋友当时说:“她很坏的,就这样留下我一个人。是不想让我看到她变老的样子而已吧。现在这两天还好,至少我还可以在她的棺木旁边陪她说话。出殡了之后我实在不知道日子要如何过。” 用“闻者伤心,听者流泪”这句话应该能够表现出当时的情景。

我不知道我朋友他要如何熬过这一段如此伤心的路。时间能够使人忘记当时的伤感,但我相信他需要很长的时间才可以做得到这件事。我知道她不会希望看到她心爱的家人和他那么伤心,但愿她能保佑我朋友和她的家人能够早日从悲伤中站起来。

很开心我有幸能够认识你。如果真的有来世,希望这些不幸不会再落到你的身上。你安息吧,一路好走。

To the future Yin...

Dear Future Yin,
At this moment, while you are writing this, you are very much in love with this guy, who is far from perfect but deep inside your heart, you knew that he is the perfect one for you.

Still remember the first time you met him? Yeah, he was never in your list of the ideal guy. Somehow, from friends to become best friends and now, he is your other half :) You always say that he is very kayu and a hopeless romantic but did you remember how much he has changed since you guys got together? Both of you have change to a better person. He learnt to become optimistic, less grumpy and gained a little bit of fashion sense. LOL! He knows that one thing that matters the most for you in a relationship is the feeling of secure. So, he always try to make you feel like you can totally rely on him about anything. He is spoiling you and turning you into a clingy girlfriend, which you really enjoy :)

Still remember how he become your sandbag when you are being tested physically and mentally in Spaoh? Yes, Spaoh.. The most terrible place you ever been to. But hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You're a survivor and you know you can survive now even if they throw you in the middle of a jungle or desert. Hehe.. During that period of time, you are like a time bomb, which can explode anytime but that kayu guy risked his 'life', stayed beside this time bomb. And of course, he survived! :-P Such a strong man huh...

Still remember how he flew to your hometown, just to be by your side. when you lost one of the beautiful gems in your life? You told him it's not necessary to do so because he still got tonnes of work waiting for him. But he came because he knew that you are not as strong as you have shown to people around you. Year 2013 was very tough, very very tough.. You were being tested once again when you lost the second gem :( You lost all your hope & faith, your world turned grey but you don't know how to share it with anybody. You packed all your emotions (anger, sad, disappointment, despair, hopeless, grief) into a baggage and brings it everywhere. You started to distant yourself from him and your friends. But your silly piggy, being the optimistic one, patiently helped you to slowly unpack the baggage and told you. "It's ok not to be strong, it's ok to cry.." He has been there with you throughout all of these tests, no matter how many times you chased him away :)

The year 2013 witnessed both of you made a few important commitments. The first one will be the piggy crib. Hahaha! That's what you guys called it right? After searching high and low for almost half a year, you guys chose one which you guys think is the perfect one to start a piggy family, a place to raise piggy children and to grow old together. Oh! Did you get him the Husky he always ask for? How about your sausage dog? You must be having a hard time vacuuming the house, cleaning the doggies and taking them for a walk :-P

Few weeks ago, you found out that he need to undergo a knee surgery. Can you remember how you feel? Let me help you to recall. He expected a scolding from you for not taking care of himself. But instead, you didn't and you told him, "Baby, let's get married and let me take care of you for the rest of your life..." You're not saying this because you want a ticket to transfer out of Spaoh but because at that very moment, you knew for sure he is THE ONE you want to spend the rest of your life with and you don't want to waste anymore time to be separated.  He laughed it off and said. "No, I should be the one saying that to you. Don't you want a real proposal?" That's how he rejected your 'proposal' FYL. However, he made you the lucky girl who got proposed twice!! Hahaha!








What kind of flowers he bought for you this year? I remember he promised you that he will buy you flowers every year. How about your birthday cakes? I bet he learnt a lot of new recipes already and improved a lot :) How about you?  Still do the online searching for  home cook recipes? You said you want to keep his
heart through his big round tummy. HAHAHA!!

Yin, I hope that you will never forget the ups and downs of LDR you guys have faced to get to where you guys are today; the heartaches both of you felt whenever you guys have to separate, the endless tears and most importantly, how much you guys enjoy each other companions. He might annoy you sometimes but you know you will miss those annoying things when he is not around. Like this,


Not everyone is able to find someone who knew all your flaws and weaknesses but still accept you the way you are. You know deep inside your heart, you have found that someone. So, stop scolding him for being indecisive or coming back late and cause your tomyam to become dry or winning you over a stupid candy game! p/s Did they come out with the advance version of candy crush? :-P

I sincerely hope that you guys are as happy as both of us are now. Appreciate every moment k.. Cause life is too short :)


Love,
The Present Yin

自我中心

很久没有跟一个人说话说到那么的无力了。 这世上就是有一些人是那么的自我中心,无论她说什么都是对的。 说什么她的是道理,根本就是歪理。 我相信我在我的朋友圈里已算是时间观念差的人,我从来没有想到有人比我更加恐怖。 迟到不在话下,最让我不能接受的是她竟然一点悔意都没有,而且还有大条道理的说她为什么会迟到。看来她所谓的出发/就快到/On the Way 等等的字眼的定义我实在是不敢苟同。

除此之外,她不亏是可以去涉足政治的不二人选。任何东西只要是对于她有利益的都能用不同的歪理将它正当化。驾车在一条单向马路中反方向行驶有错吗?根据她的回答,是那条马路的路牌不够明显,所以就算是那条马路的parking非常明显是只能单向行驶的,她也不必为她所做的东西感到不好意思,而且还可以理直气壮的hon回那些对于她如此鲁莽驾车而感到愤怒的司机。我想要告诉你,不是pass了undang-undang就代表你会驾车,交通法律里没有提及的不代表它一定是对的。驾车不是只是拿了钥匙开车就可以了,麻烦你用你的脑来衡量一下这样可以行的通吗。如果每个人只要自己方便就可以乱乱来,那可不是天下大乱?

我很少会在部落格里这样的讨论一个人,你是第一个让我这样做的人。我在此只能说,我欣赏你的坚持,可是我非常不欣赏以及不能接受你那说得头头是道的歪理!!!

无言

是否工作已经变成了我唯一可以和其他人沟通的东西呢? 果然人会变, 月会圆, 我也已经变得我不知道我自己是谁了。。。。

2013 New Year Resolution

The end of the world didn't happened and thus i think i should start to think of my own new year resolution since i am very good in procrastinating. =p

Here it goes:

1) Control my own emotion - very difficult for emo person lik me. 1st thing need to be learn not to show black face in my office >< Recently started to become emo again le, should i just put a whole bunch of lavender on my office table since they said lavender can help to reduce stress for a person haha XD

2) Pass my external exam - can't say that this is resolution coz i paid exam fee for this one alr so i dun have a choice also =,=lll hohoho

3) Ultimate Aim!!! On diet!!!! Can't really accept when i realized the fact that some of my clothes or pants become too small size for my big big tummy!!! Next year at least try to lose some weight and don't let my spare tyre come out when i sit down.... Y_Y

4) Be decisive when have to make a choice. I think i really got 选择恐惧症 becoz i always spend a lot of time to do some decision such as where to eat, what can i do during weekend, what i need to do 1st. This is not a good sign n hope that i can at least dun hesitate too long when making decision in future. *Finger-crossed

5) Buy a house??? erm, this is depends on my financial condition ba~~~

6) Try to do more research on my taiwan trip~~!!!!! Can't let what happened in Phuket to happen again!!!!

7)....................................... This one remain unknown 1st ba hahaha


Back

It's been awhile from my last post, since today got half day leave with my pig leg at home & got nth to do then write some stuff here ba. Recently start to feel bored with my working life, although i still haven't fully understand all the mechanism and concept in my job scope, I've alr thinking of my holiday at December le. However, dreaming is not going to give me money and without money, I cannot go anywhere even during my holidays.

Sprained my right knee on last Friday (again!) and suddenly I think maybe I should balance my sport life such as a combination between swimming and badminton. Old lo~~~~ But I'm not regretting of getting these injuries when i play badminton. Although i still very cha sui at playing badminton and most likely will lose to you all in a match, so what? It is still my interest and if you all think that it is very embarrassed to play with me then you can go n play with somebody else, it's your choice!

Seem lik my langkawi trip was fly away le, thought of going there to buy a bottle of coffee liquor then when come back to malaysia can try to make a tiramisu @@. More people will have more conflicts for sure so I can't do anything on that too. Just feel sorry for my coffee liquor and my dark chocolate~ Y_Y

Hope that all the outstanding stuffs can be done in next few weeks and then i can really enjoy my holidays at Phuket there.... Bungee Jump!!!!! Wait for me ah~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

长大

当人慢慢的长大的时候,快乐渐渐少了,而烦恼就慢慢的多了。。。。。